Flash February – first week

PROMPT #1

Start a (true) story with the words the first time or the last time. The fourth word of your story can be anything except a first-person pronoun (I/we/my/our). 

Get down as much of the story as you can in 20 minutes. Stop for the day.

The last time Charlie broke a bone, he was climbing over the fence in our backyard. At least that’s what we think he happened. One summer day, he showed up on the rug inside the back door and looked injured. He couldn’t stand without holding up his back leg and seemed to be in pain. How do you tell a cat is in pain? They wince when you touch their leg. They cannot move very far without great difficulty. Beyond that, they don’t tell you. They don’t even yowl. We took him to the vet, where he received x-rays confirming the break and a cast that extended from his upper thigh to his ankle. He wore this cast for about a week. Then he wore a shorter cast for about a week. Then an even shorter cast for about a week. (I could be wrong about the amount of time he spent in each cast, but I do have photos of his various casts, in various colors and patterns.) The most difficult part, for us, was keeping him inside and feeding him. He customarily ate on the bar counter, so the dogs couldn’t reach his food. We had to close him in the laundry room when he ate. Neither he nor we liked this arrangement because we had to schedule feeding times rather than leaving his kibble out for him to eat when he needed or wanted to eat. But eventually he recovered and gradually regained almost full use of his leg. He still has a scar and the injured leg remained smaller than the uninjured one. At times, the leg seems to bother him: jumping on and off of furniture, walking up and down the stairs. He also avoids lying on the bad leg. The older he’s become, the more he appears to experience pain. We now give him biweekly shots of medication intended to alleviate arthritis pain. After he’s received a shot, he seems happier. How can you tell if he’s happy? He doesn’t yowl as much in the early morning. He’s more playful. He moves around more easily. When the shot wears off–usually the 12th or 13th day after the previous one–he becomes noisy, plays less, and moves stiffly. We’re happy that the shot helps, though it’s no fun to administer. Dave gives it to him, since he’s used to injecting cats (his cat Lucy needed twice daily shots for various maladies). We try to find a time when he’s relaxed–lying on the couch or in a chair–and when we don’t have to rush anywhere. In other words, we wait until everyone is calm, relaxed, stress-free. Dave approaches Charlie, reassures him through pets and speech, then pulls up the skin from the scruff of his neck, finds a spot with plenty of room, and administers the shot. Once done, Dave massages the spot and reassures Charlie again. The injection usually goes smoothly, only causing Charlie to meow a couple of times. We think he’s startled more than in pain. How do you know when a cat is startled? They will meow loudly. They will claw at you. They will run away. Only occasionally has Charlie meowed. He’s never clawed at Dave while being injected. And he’s never run away.

PROMPT #2

Write a letter to someone—other than your parents—who will (probably) never read it. You might be writing this letter to share some feelings, but you should also focus on the event or interaction that caused the feelings. What did this person do or say to inspire this letter? What do you want them to remember or understand?

Get down as much of the story as you can in 20 minutes. Stop for the day.

Dear Marcia Whipps,

I don’t know if you’ll remember me, but I was in your junior AP English class at East High. It was my first year in Utah–new school, new students, new everything. You provided a structure that I probably needed at the time. You graded us on each period, comma, semi-colon, etc. Whether used or not used. Correctly or incorrectly placed. How did you have time to read all of our papers? Let alone mark them up so carefully? Some of my classmates claimed that you added booze to your thermos of coffee and thus “powered” your way through the day. I never saw you nod off though. Not like Mr Weeks–Calvin Weeks–who taught AP Chemistry, sat at his lab bench, and frequently dozed off in the middle of a lecture. We sat in our seats, reading or doing some other individual activity, until he woke up. He used to say he worked nights at the Wonder Bread factory and thus was tired during the day. But you did not sleep. You kept watch over us during class then graded our papers at night. I remember you came to one of our high school reunions–maybe the 10th? The student body selected you as the most beloved teacher. You walked with a cane. We greeted you, happy to see you. I never knew if you were married, had children, grandchildren, pets. I knew nothing about you. I remember you wore lipstick, smoked cigarettes–I could tell by the smoky fingers, bloodshot eyes, and ashy papers you returned to us–and drank coffee. And probably liquor. I’m not convinced you drank during the school day. Though who could blame you if you did. By the time I took your class I had tasted alcohol many times. I’d gotten drunk on screwdrivers with friends on Long Island. I’d gotten stoned and walked on the beach with those same friends. Sometime during junior high. But I hadn’t gotten drunk in Utah yet. That would happen during my senior year, after I’d made friends. I’ve never wanted to drink during work. Maybe I wanted to a little bit during the early months of the pandemic. I didn’t do it though. Too scared. If you did drink during the school day, were you ever worried that you would get caught? Had you thought through the consequences? If you were an alcoholic, you probably thought you could get away with it. Substance first; consequences last. You would have rationalized the behavior…”I need something to help me get through the day. These teenagers are awful. Stinky, noisy, ungovernable. I only have a little bit with my coffee. When I get home I can have a real drink. Besides, it’s just a little day drink to make the time go by, to soften the edges, to help me control my anger.” You did seem angry sometimes. Because you were coming off the booze or not yet on the booze? Or maybe you just got angry, as any normal person would. I never wanted to teach high school English. You may have an influence on me there. I knew I couldn’t handle it. I knew I’d probably start drinking too. Now look at me! Professor of English with my own addictive tendencies. What do my students think of me? Do they wonder if I drink, smoke, abuse substances? Like I’ve assumed about you. Rumors. What rumors do they have about me? I’m sorry if I’ve perpetuated a lie. I’m sorry if I’ve misrepresented you. I’m sorry you had to endure so many years in the public school system.

Thank you for everything you taught me,

Becky Jo Gesteland

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new year, new you

I wrote about resolutions last year. What I said then I maintain still: I don’t make resolutions, though I kind of do and then quickly abandon them. But this year, I’ve been contemplating a new kind of resolution: acceptance. Acceptance of me, my body, myself.

Since my early teens I’ve counted calories or carbohydrates and tracked my weight. I’ve winced at my appearance: too fat, too old, too gray, too saggy. I’ve judged myself for not being what I think I should be: in shape–whatever that means–and within a few pounds of 135–wherever that ideal weight came from, I don’t know…perhaps my grandmother, who was also 5′ 2″ and claimed to weight 135 her entire life. I don’t know the last time I weighed 135…perhaps after I had Jake when I somehow returned to my pre-pregnancy weight. After Maggie, I did not return to 135. Now I’m a 61-year old menopausal woman edging closer to my peak pregnancy weight of 165. Yesterday my scale said 160 with clothes on.

Google menopausal weight gain, and you’ll find lots of articles about the phenomenon and even more articles about how to fix it. Diet, exercise, and hormone therapy appear to be the cures. But what if I’m not a problem to be solved? What if I’m a normal woman going through typical changes associated with aging? Google aging actresses, and you’ll find images of women who have gained wait as they’ve aged. Look at photos of your mother when she was young–before she had children–and compare them to photos when she is old–after she became a grandmother. Of course she dieted and lost weight for a while, but she ultimately returned to what her body deemed a natural weight.

The anti-anxiety and antidepressant medications I take may contribute to weight gain. But I wouldn’t give them up for anything. I like being sane. I’ve accepted my need for medication, so why can’t I accept my body’s changes as I age? My goal for this year is to work on accepting my body as it is now. Obviously I don’t need to drink or eat as much as I may want: I can moderate my intake. Obviously I should move my body as much as possible even if I feel like being lazy: I can exercise regularly. That said, I don’t like struggling against my body as I have been doing. I will strive for acceptance.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. (Serenity Prayer)

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cousins

a short piece I wrote about Jake and Gus…

Cousins

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knitting & rewriting

A quote from the last section of Grant Faulkner’s The Art of Brevity: Crafting the Very Short Story (168-169):

On Revision (and Knitting)

When knitting, you might get pretty far along with your sock before you realized you effed up and dropped a stitch. If you want your sock to look good, you are going to rip out the stitches and lose the hours you spent knitting perfectly well after you made that mistake in order to correct your error and ultimately make the sock you were born to knit. For me, writing is the same. If I take a wrong turn, I need to go back to that juncture to fix the story. Otherwise, I will have a sock, I mean, story, that has not lived up to its potential. A stupid, useless sock-story.

— Lynn Mundell

I’m struck by the parallel to a recent experience of my own: I found a skein of cotton yarn, whose label indicated it was suitable for size 1-3 mm needles, and I knitted a sock to the heel gusset three times. Each time, I dropped a stitch or lost count of the decreases then couldn’t retrieve the stitches when I undid my work. After I ripped out the sock for a third time, I decided I either needed to change the needle size or yarn weight. I found a skein of Noro sock wool–not as soft as cotton–but the weight fit the needles. The stitches were not too tight, not too loose. The gauge was just right.

Like Mundell, I couldn’t leave the mistake and carry on. Unlike Mundell, I couldn’t return to the juncture and fix it. The mistake was in the materials: the yarn, the needles, the gauge, the pattern. Something was amiss. Everything has to work together in order for the sock to live up to its potential. Rather than revising “a rip in the fabric” (yet again), I need to rip out the entire sock-story and start over. Rather than a 387-word micro essay, perhaps I need to write a 100-word story about the demise of a favorite flannel robe. Distill the sock-story to its essence.

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unlucky update

Insightful piece in The New Yorker: The Tortured Bond of Alice Sebold and the Man Wrongfully Convicted of Her Rape. See my previous post: unlucky.

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snow-bound

We received almost a foot yesterday–March 27th. During graduate school, I wrote a paper (long lost) about John Greenleaf Whittier’s poem, Snow-Bound: A Winter Idyl. I forgot how long the poem is, but maybe I’ll reread it and perhaps write a new essay about snow.

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what I did over spring break

I tested positive for COVID-19 on March 5, 2023. According to recent reports, the pandemic began on March 11, 2020. I made it almost three years before contracting the virus. On March 12, I tested positive again, so on day 9 (today) I opted to stay home and teach online. After 10 days, I should be okay to venture out into the world.

Such a weird bug. I tried yoga on day 5. Big mistake. The headache returned, and I felt like crap the next day. From one day to the next, I feel energized then exhausted. From one hour to the next, I feel good then bad. From one minute to the next, I feel hot then cold. My sense of smell and taste changes throughout the day. My sinuses feel clear, they feel stuffy. I get dizzy. I get hungry, I get nauseous. I get dry mouth. I forget what I just said. I remember the lines from a song I heard 20 years ago. I wait and wait and wait for the fog to dissipate. And I eagerly await bedtime, which gets earlier and earlier every night. Daylight savings time be dammed. I can sleep anytime, anywhere.

No skiing. No southern Utah trip. No relaxing days reading books and watching movies. Instead a slog of a week. A slug moves faster and enjoys the journey.

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resolutions

I don’t make them. I mean I do, but then I quickly abandon them. I tell everyone I don’t make them so I don’t have to tell them I’ve already quit doing whatever I promised myself I wouldn’t do, or stopped doing whatever I promised myself I would do. Last night I fell off the wagon, which I’d only been riding for three days: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. By Thursday, I needed/wanted a drink.

Apparently I’m not alone. Today, January 13, 2023, is Quitters’ Day–the day when everyone quits, gives up, abandons their New Year’s resolutions. The second Friday of January is the date by which we’ve all decided it’s just too difficult to change our behavior:

“Quitter’s Day is set aside to recognize those who set new year goals and fail to achieve them — and to encourage and equip them to try again and ultimately succeed. Research has shown that people quit their resolutions for the year by the second Friday of January.”

Fascinating! I’m part of the 80%. Do I get extra points for quitting early? I didn’t plan to resolve anything. I mean I have no resolve. I really just want to survive–survive the return to teaching, the winter, the next few years of my life. Drinking, even in moderation, probably doesn’t prolong my life. But how bad is it really? I mean the battles I wage with myself may be doing more harm than the booze. Perhaps I could give myself permission to be imperfect, to have the occasional evening of whiskey or wine.

“Progress not perfection.” I exercised every day this week so far = progress. I woke up early and wrote–at least a little bit–every morning this week = progress. I kept up with my classes in person and online = progress. I made time to read a book = progress. I practiced the piano = progress. I knit a sock = progress. I skied = progress. I avoided the TV news most evenings = progress. I spent quality time with my cats, daughter, and husband = progress. I wrote and mailed thank you notes for Christmas = progress. I came to this coffee shop and wrote a post for my blog = progress.

I resolve not to worry about being the imperfect being that I am. I resolve to be enough, for now.

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between

Happy to have this post up on So to Speak.

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new pubs page

After owning this blog for I don’t know how many years, I’ve finally added a new page, Publications, which includes the following sub-sections:

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